Friday, January 9, 2015

Humans Suck At Relationships!







I have been tossing and turning all night, thinking about things and I have come up with not a new conclusion but one worth revisiting.
This planet sucks at relationships! Living on such a small planet you would think we would know by the calendar year 2015 how important it is that we all get along. 
I have been recently drawn to study the area of human evolution. I use those words with a slant towards hu-man as told though science,evidence,creation, darwinism, mysticism  and religion I have found one thing true in all. We are taught mentally that we should live in peace and harmony,even given rules and guide lines in every area of our lives. Yet here we are like kindergarten kids on the play ground or like this video I watched this morning where kids as young as 4 were arguing because one mother said it was raining the other saying it was sprinkling. Before you knew it the little girl started to be mean because he wouldn't  agree with what her mommy said then poked him in the chest, it was touching but also heartbreaking as the little boy cried out in pain and sadness that she had poked his heart! We as Adults with the capacity and forethought to kill and hurt are acting out this scene  in the world, our cities and government even worse in our own homes.
At our core as humans we have the ability to come together in adversity but we are also the same that create it. Why is it that we refuse to accept our differences and embrace the other persons struggle,understanding before judging and thinking of those in need as just that, in need.
Looking back on this planets history you can only concluded  something has gone wrong. Austin said to me last night. Animals and plants would survive without man but man could not survive without them. Why mom dosent your generation not get that? What could I say. We suck at relationships  of all kinds.
Our relationship to our whole world is not based on truth half the time. It's based on false or misleading information  or we just accept what is told to us third party and never researched for ones self. The best thing a pastor once told me was if you want to know the truth don't take my word look it up for your self. I took that advice and was no longer attending church one year later.
You see with every area of our life we develop  relationships.  You and your bosses,Co workers, neighbors family and friends and so on. The one that is lacking the most is with ourselves. Developing a relationship within and outside ourselves is what all religions and mysticism talk about. Prayer and meditation, connecting to others through acts of kindness and brother hood of man,to take responsibility for our planet and all its inhabitants.  This is the garden of eden isn't it? Or is it a playground of kindergartens making a mess of things waiting for some Heavenly Father or Alien big brother to come home and clean up the mess and punish those who have been bad. Even better reward those that sat by and did nothing but paid there tithes?
 Do I have the answer, of course not but neither does anyone else. I do know one thing what we are doing and how we are behaving is not working that is for sure. I will say I know the first step in changing things begins with me and it begins with you.
I guess acceptance and understanding there is a problem means you have the ability to solve it as well. So I'm now admitting it we suck at relationships in general!!!
So now what do we do, hence the up all night.  To solve a problem we first have to look at what we are doing and not doing.
So here are some practical step to start doing just that;

A. Working in the areas of listening
We tend to want to defend in conversation or share more then we are willing to really listen with intent and understanding.

B. Stop jumping to conclusion based on information not gain through direct contact or research.
We are a nation of; telling the story then checking the facts last. I see this in  media all the time both in mainstream and the internet. People sharing information but never taking the time to verify facts. This goes for social media as well if not more.

C.Make amends where amends are needed.
It's okay to be wrong, it is a act of weakness to hide behind anger then admit you were wrong. This goes for personal and national  relationship too. We never have to accept a wrong done to us but we still are responsible for how that manifest in your life and those around you. To make mistakes is human to deny we do is just foolish!

D. Start thinking about how your actions and words will effect the people around you.
It was said that in the Native American tribes not one decision was made without thinking and discussing how it would effect 7 generations out. We now have no consideration for how it effects our world let alone our closest relations.

I guess the most important would be start that inner relationship with your mind and how you interact in your world and relationships.  Take time to see where you suck in those relationships your in everyday,not only with the human inhabitants of this planet but all living things.

How that conversation with Austin started was he wanted to know who God really is. It's hard to explain to a 12 year old God is everything you see and lives within you and me while he sees the world killing each other daily with guns and bombs and with words and deeds. We are a living contradiction and a society that has forgotten it's roots.  I hope in Austins time we will learn to get along and get back to creating a garden not a military war zone..
It's never to late to mend relations but it could be someday to late to recover what we will have lost. All because we never learned how to play nice...  Now wouldn't that be sad!

So what will you do this weekend to better your relationship with yourself or the world around you?

1 comment:

  1. Thank you so much, that was so true. I love reading your blogs. You definately put things into perspective.

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